Breastfeed a Toddler – Why on Earth?

An obviously uneducated (and childless) woman told me today that “normal society would view me as a pervert for continuing to nurse my 2 year old.” I am here to help educate ANY and EVERY one who remotely thinks there is anything valid about this accusation. Thanks for your time. Spread the news, so many individuals are misinformed, or not informed at all and are just speculating. If I myself weren’t overly knowledgeable on this topic, I may have questioned myself, oh but no way Jose, I know better!

http://pediatrics.about.com/cs/breastfeeding/a/bf_toddler.htm

Breastfeed a Toddler – Why on Earth?
Because more and more women are now breastfeeding their babies, more and more are also finding that they enjoy breastfeeding enough to want to continue longer than the usual few months they initially thought they would. UNICEF has long encouraged breastfeeding for two years and longer, and the American Academy of Pediatrics is now on record as encouraging mothers to nurse at least one year and as long after as both mother and baby desire. Even the Canadian Paediatric Society, in its latest feeding statement acknowledges that women may want to breastfeed for two years or longer. Breastfeeding to 3 and 4 years of age has been common in much of the world until recently, and it is still common in many societies for toddlers to breastfeed.

Why should breastfeeding continue past six months?

Because mothers and babies often enjoy breastfeeding a lot.
Why stop an enjoyable relationship?

But it is said that breastmilk has no value after six months.

Perhaps this is said, but it is wrong. That anyone can say such a thing only shows how ignorant so many people in our society are about breastfeeding. Breastmilk is, after all, milk. Even after six months, it still contains protein, fat, and other nutritionally important and appropriate elements which babies and children need. Breastmilk still contains immunologic factors that help protect the baby. In fact, some immune factors in breastmilk that protect the baby against infection are present in greater amounts in the second year of life than in the first. This is, of course as it should be, since children older than a year are generally exposed to more infection. Breastmilk still contains factors that help the immune system to mature, and which help the brain, gut, and other organs to develop and mature.

It has been well shown that children in daycare who are still breastfeeding have far fewer and less severe infections than the children who are not breastfeeding. The mother thus loses less work time if she continues nursing her baby once she is back at her paid work.

It is interesting that formula company marketing pushes the use of formula (a rather imperfect copy of the real thing) for a year, yet implies that breastmilk (from which the imperfect copy is copied) is only worthwhile for 6 months or even less (“the best nutrition for newborns”). Too many health professionals have taken up the refrain.

I have heard that the immunologic factors in breastmilk prevent the baby from developing his own immunity if I breastfeed past six months.

This is untrue; in fact, this is absurd. It is unbelievable how so many people in our society twist around the advantages of breastfeeding and turn them into disadvantages. We give babies immunizations so that they are able to defend themselves against the real infection. Breastmilk also allows the baby to be fight off infections. When the baby fights off these infections, he becomes immune. Naturally.

But I want my baby to become independent.

And breastfeeding makes the toddler dependent? Don’t believe it. The child who breastfeeds until he weans himself (usually from 2 to 4 years), is generally more independent, and, perhaps more importantly, more secure in his independence. He has received comfort and security from the breast, until he is ready to make the step himself to stop. And when he makes that step himself, he knows he has achieved something, he knows he has moved ahead. It is a milestone in his life.

Often we push children to become “independent” too quickly. To sleep alone too soon, to wean from the breast too soon, to do without their parents too soon, to do everything too soon. Don’t push and the child will become independent soon enough.

What’s the rush? Soon they will be leaving home. You want them to leave home at 14?

Of course, breastfeeding can, in some situations, be used to foster an overdependent relationship. But so can food and toilet training. The problem is not the breastfeeding. This is another issue.

What else?

Possibly the most important aspect of nursing a toddler is not the nutritional or immunologic benefits, important as they are. I believe the most important aspect of nursing a toddler is the special relationship between child and mother. Breastfeeding is a life affirming act of love. This continues when the baby becomes a toddler. Anyone without prejudices, who has ever observed an older baby or toddler nursing can testify that there is something almost magical, something special, something far beyond food going on. A toddler will sometimes spontaneously, for no obvious reason, break into laughter while he is nursing. His delight in the breast goes far beyond a source of food. And if the mother allows herself, breastfeeding becomes a source of delight for her as well, far beyond the pleasure of providing food. Of course, it’s not always great, but what is? But when it is, it makes it all so worthwhile.

And if the child does become ill or does get hurt (and they do as they meet other children and become more daring), what easier way to comfort the child than breastfeeding? I remember nights in the emergency department when mothers would walk their ill, non nursing babies or toddlers up and down the halls trying, often unsuccessfully, to console them, while the nursing mothers were sitting quietly with their comforted, if not necessarily happy, babies at the breast. The mother comforts the sick child with breastfeeding, and the child comforts the mother by breastfeeding.

Revised January 2000
Written by Jack Newman, MD, FRCPC

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About Mamamojo

My name is T. I am a homeschooling, home/water birthing, dreadlocked, special needs mama to four beautiful daughters. I'm married to my best friend. I am a natural childbirth and breastfeeding advocate. I have done some volunteer work as a peer counselor with WIC and as a doula with Birthwell Partners and plan to be a midwifery assistant one day. My blog was created to put some alternative information out there about breastfeeding, childbirth & other issues regarding motherhood and life in general. I hope that you enjoy reading here and visit me often. Thanks for reading!
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6 Responses to Breastfeed a Toddler – Why on Earth?

  1. Christi says:

    You’re doing a wonderful thing on this blog.

  2. hestiahomeschool says:

    I’m still nursing my almost five year old–and I nursed her sister to the very end of what is considered normal to breastfeed (she could read and multiply…LOL)

    It is normal, and sweet, and so natural…

    http://journals.aol.com/hestiahomeschool/HomeschoolingJournal/

  3. milysmilune says:

    Sorry to answer to an old message, but can you imagine that 4 PEDIATRICIAN and 2 generalist told me that I have to stop breastfeeding my……. my 1 year old girl !!!

    One even humiliated me, asking me if I was going to BF until she’s in college… That it is innapropriate. ( oh and by the way, this one, I was there for my baby’s diarhea… so wtf ?)

    Another time, I had a bad pneumonia. When I asked if medication was BF compatible, he said : heyyy come one, this is too long, stop BF now…. too long too long…

    I had to tell them that UNICEF and WHO recommands: BF 2 years…. they look at me as if I am a liar…. or insane

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  5. Shen-Li says:

    “normal society would view me as a pervert for continuing to nurse my 2 year old.”

    I’ve heard one worse from the MIL of a friend who claims her son will turn into a pervert when he grows up because he is still nursing at the age of 2 1/2 years. It’s really ridiculous what the uneducated will say – almost makes me want to reply, “Please be quiet before you embarass yourself.”

    Thankfully when I tell my doctor and my son’s paediatrician that I’m still nursing my 22 month old son, while they are surprised, they are also delighted to hear it.

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