I just have to put this out there in light of couple responses I have gotten on my blog…
I am not here to argue just to get it off of my chest “JUST CAUSE.”
Just because millions of people eat a lot of processed foods and fast food and are still relatively healthy doesn’t mean it’s a good idea to do it.
Just because a lot of people let their babies cry it out and the babies are ‘just fine’ doesn’t mean it’s a good idea.
Just because millions of people smoke cigarettes and NEVER get cancer or die from complications related to smoking doesn’t mean it’s a good idea.
Just because people have been drinking sodas and diet sodas for long periods of time and are ‘just fine’ doesn’t make it the best idea.
Just because many people vaccinate their children by the thousands every year and they don’t all have adverse reactions doesn’t mean there isn’t a risk associated with doing so.
ALL OF THESE INSTANCES HAVE SCIENTIFIC EVIDENCE SUPPORTING THAT THERE IS A RISK INVOLVED WITH THEM!!!
JUST BECAUSE BABIES ‘THRIVE’ ON ARTIFICIAL BABY MILK/FORMULA DOES NOT, I REPEAT DOES NOT MEAN THAT THERE IS NO RISK ASSOCIATED WITH DOING SO!
Feed your child however you wish, by all means, it’s YOUR child. But DO NOT and I repeat DO NOT argue with me that JUST CAUSE YOUR CHILD TURNED OUT “JUST FINE” that it is a GOOD IDEA to do so because it JUST ISN’T.
And I am truly sorry for the mothers who truly cannot breastfeed. And I commend the adoptive mothers who attempt to lactate and the mothers with serious breastfeeding issues who give it all they have before giving up and I UNDERSTAND why people formula feed. I get it, I know, I understand. But all the reasons in the world that may or may not justify why you do what you do with regards to feeding your child does not change the fact that there are, INDEED risks associated with formula feeding that are not associated with breastfeeding.
Hell, you’ve heard the stories from your mothers and grandmothers about how they brought babies up with Condensed Milk and Karo Syrup – were they ‘just fine?’ SURE they were! But damn, come one, gimme a break!!!
There are so many times that it is inappropriate or disrespectful to go against the grain. It’s often times considered rude and rebellious to do things outside of the norm. We live in such a culturally diverse world yet we are expected to be a cookie cutter image of what society says we should be. But normal my friend, fits in a wide canyon. It’s okay to bite your tongue, it’s also okay to save face, but when it comes to you and your children, it’s okay to stand up.
It’s okay to stand up to in-laws, neighbors, cousins, and strangers who may argue with your decision to breastfeed your baby. It’s alright to stand up to grandparents and anonymous bloggers who say you shouldn’t co-sleep and that you are doing this world some injustice by not vaccinating, or doing so selectively. It’s acceptable to stand up to your pediatrician when he tells you that you need to wean your 1 year old when you know better. It’s legal to be the mother you want to be, after all it is you that has to live with what you create. It’s perfectly fine not to spank your children and to home school, unschool or whatever it is you choose to do. It’s okay to do it your way. And it’s not okay for others to push themselves on you, call you radical, irresponsible, accuse you of spoiling your children or anything else inflammatory. And it’s your right to put them right back into their place when they attempt to do so. The secret to a happy life is boundaries.
So the next time someone makes a snide remark about how many children you have or asks if they are all yours, or someone stares at you for wearing your baby in a sling or nursing in public or someone actually has the nerve to pretend to know anything at all about you in the first 5 seconds of speaking to you, give em the ole heave ho and stick it to em loud and clear. Boundaries are important and a life without boundaries makes for one unhappy mama. You have the right to stand up.
The appointment was today…I saw the ARNP, she was great. She was super sweet and very sympathetic. She said I was amazing Oh right, this is about Jinx
The Dr and NP seem to think that the antibiotics I had (IV @ 3days pp, then a 10 day round, then another 7 day round at 3 weeks pp) have caused inflammation in Jinx’s intestines. They think a bacteria called “C. Difficile” is growing there (also due to the abx). Weird that antibiotics would CAUSE a bacteria when that’s what they are supposed to kill, but go figure. Apparently the abx left her gut sterile, and a sterile gut with no bac at all will grow whatever is opportunistic.
Side note: We dropped off a stool sample for a 48hr culture on Friday and apparently they can’t find Jinx in the system, nice But the GI took another sample today and they are gonna culture that to see what’s up.
The NP did a rectal exam <insert screaming baby smilie here> and said everything felt normal from what she could feel (doesn’t mean everything is though, kwim?). After she did the exam, J pooped like you would not believe. I changed her, she pooped again, I changed her and she pooped again…okay we went through 4 diapers before she was done. But I am glad b/c the NP got to see firsthand how watery her poop actually is.
She was not surprised that the Tylenol with Codeine didn’t work at all anymore (even though Jinx has only ever had it 4 times) but she WAS surprised that the Levicin/Hyoscyamine Drops didn’t work She said the Probiotics were a good idea (something I knew already but always good to have confirmed by a professional). She was very adamant about how well Jinx is, that made me feel great. I so didn’t want anything bad to be wrong with my baby. I will be happy to know she has a bac in her gut that is treatable that will make the inflammation go away which in turn will make her comfortable in her own body again
Now for the treatment of the C Diff (if that’s what it turns out to be) is, yep, you guessed it ANTIBIOTICS! Wow, I am amazed that antibiotics can cause such a problem in my baby, then in turn be the only thing that can fix it! Glitch in the Matrix? Must be.
If it isn’t C Diff then we just chalk it up to “an immature digestive system.” I am so glad that it isn’t something more serious (unless of course her poo culture comes back wacky ).
Now for the weird part…the NP was going on about how great Jinx is and how well she is growing and she even pulled up a chart to show me from birth till now yadda yadda, look at the curvy line, etc. But OVER TWO WEEKS AGO (17 days) my baby weighed 12lbs 4oz and today she was 11lbs 13oz. I know the whole different scale thing and all but even if she was the exact same weight and not under from then, isn’t it weird that she hasn’t gained anything in that amount of time? I dunno, the NP and DR didn’t seem concerned. But I just had to throw that out there.
She also said that the choking on her spit up, losing her breath, etc., was normal. She said that if she turns blue or is struggling to breathe (very rapid breaths) I should be concerned. But she didn’t seem to think it was an issue. So should I cancel the appt I have with the Pulmonologist?
The reason her belly button pops out when she screams is because she has an umbilical hernia, apparently that’s no big deal either. They said that once she starts sitting up her belly muscles will be stronger and it’ll be fine.
So, that was our day.
Things have been insane with Jinx. We’ve had episodes of screaming for 12 hours, serious gas, stinky dipes, serious spit-uppage (yes I made up a word). After being on a Total Elimination Diet for a while now I have discovered that she has issues with dairy, soy, wheat and I am not sure what else. Even with that cut out and on a very restricted diet (turkey, green beans, sweet potatoes, pears, zucchini, onions and cabbage) she was still having some serious discomfort. I’m talking we had to give her prescribed Tylenol w/Codeine to get her to sleep after 12 hours of upset. I’ve done it all, rocking, swaying, shushing, swaddling, belly massages (with my homemade belly oil containing Peppermint and Fennel Seed Essential Oils), wearing her, warm baths, nothing comforts her. The Ped prescribed these Hyoscyamine Sulfate drops for intestinal cramping and they helped some in addition to the Gripe Water, but not really. I recently stopped EVERYTHING. All of my supplements b/c my prenatals have Iron, I was also taking Garlic and Cranberry, so I quit it all, the B-Vitamins, the Omegas, all of it. I also quit all of Jinx’s meds (the Hyo drops and the Gripe Water both have citric acid) and the only thing I am administering now is her Zantac with a probiotic mixed in. We had the best day and night yesterday that we have had in a long time. Things still aren’t quite right though. Often time when she is nursing she chokes on the milk and stops breathing, it is not due to Over Active Let-down, it makes no difference where she is in the feeding, it still happens. She throws her head back and gulps and tries to breathe and can’t and then finally catches her breath. She does this not just when nursing, but also when medicine is administered and sometimes when she’s just sitting around (I think she spits up and then chokes on it). I don’t know if she’s inhaling the fluid or not. But it’s really freaky and it scares me to see her struggle to catch her breath. We see a GI on the 18th and a Pulmonary specialist on the 27th. Just wanted to update you all. Things have been crazy, but hopefully all will be well soon and we will be at the bottom of this all!!
I did have a substantial amount of Ibuprofen during the last month of my pregnancy due to pain (6 ribs out of place, etc.) cause the chiro just wasn’t cutting it and I couldn’t afford accupuncture or accupressure. I also had 2 rounds of antibiotics and IV antibiotics during the first three weeks postpartum. So I think I may have ruined any chance her gut had. Here’s hoping the probiotics help and in the end I hope these specialists just laugh at me and tell me she has a bad case of reflux and nothing more!
Okay Mamas…Here’s my challenge to you!
For all who are reluctant to NIP even though it’s your God given right and even if you don’t believe in God, it ain’t against the law so get hip with it. You are paving the road for our daughters to NIP as well! I challenge you to make a list of 5 places you are hesitant/reluctant/afraid to nurse in public.
Next, I want you to go there and DO IT!! And post to us all about how friggin’ liberating it was! Be sure to send this link to your mama friends!
Dr. Seuss for Nursing Moms
Would you nurse her in the park?
Would you nurse him in the dark?
Would you nurse him with a Boppy?
And when your boobs are feeling floppy?
I would nurse him in the park,
I would nurse her in the dark.
I’d nurse with or without a Boppy.
Floppy boobs will never stop me.
Can you nurse with your seat belt on?
Can you nurse from dusk till dawn?
Though she may pinch me, bite me, pull,
I will nurse her `till she’s full!
Can you nurse and make some soup?
Can you nurse and feed the group?
It makes her healthy strong and smart,
Mommy’s milk is the best start!
Would you nurse him at the game?
Would you nurse her in the rain?
In front of those who dare complain?
I would nurse him at the game.
I would nurse her in the rain.
As for those who protest lactation,
I have the perfect explanation.
Mommy’s milk is tailor made
It’s the perfect food, you need no aid.
Some may scoff and some may wriggle,
Avert their eyes or even giggle.
To those who can be cruel and rude,
Remind them breast’s the perfect food!
I would never scoff or giggle,
Roll my eyes or even wiggle!
I would not be so crass or crude,
I KNOW that this milk’s the perfect food!
We make the amount we need
The perfect temp for every feed.
There’s no compare to milk from breast-
The perfect food, above the rest.
Those sweet nursing smiles are oh so sweet,
Mommy’s milk is such a treat.
Human milk just can’t be beat.
I will nurse, in any case,
On the street or in your face.
I will not let my baby cry,
I’ll meet her needs, I’ll always try.
It’s not about what’s good for you,
It’s best for babies, through and through.
I will nurse her in my home,
I will nurse her when I roam.
Leave me be lads and ma’am.
I will nurse her, Mom I am.
Tara…tandem nursin’, co-sleepin’, babywearin’, non-vaxin’, homebirthin’, cloth diaperin’, earth conscious, full-time student, wife to Kristopher &
Mama to my still nursin’ fire cracker Trinity Jade &
my home birthed water baby Journey MaeAnn
Today we had our 6 week post-partum check-up with Kelli (my midwife). I lost 30lbs in 6 weeks! I couldn’t believe it considering I’ve done nothing proactively to lose it!! Technically tomorrow will be 2 weeks since I stopped bleeding and I was told by Kelli that I am not allowed to exercise until 2 weeks after I stop. So it’s good to know that the weight is gonna come off easily, especially since 30 of it already came off on it’s own!! Beside my stomach muscles still being separated from the pregnancy, I am in good health and good shape. Kelli says I have 6mo to try to close the separation or it will not close. But sit-ups and crunches should help with that. She let me feel her abs, then showed me on mine where the muscle is separated, it felt weird. Seeing the muscle on a diagram helped me understand it all. I love Kelli, she is so good at explaining things and making sure you understand them.
Trinity and I are going to start doing Yoga every morning, at least it’s my hope that she’ll do it with me. I think she will though because she’s very much into imitating me and things she sees on her shows lately. Trinity is still as sweet as can be with Journey. Wanting to kiss and hold and ‘love on her’ as she says, all the time. Journey is responding okay to the Zantac for her reflux and the Gripe Water for the gassiness/colic/whatever you wanna call it. I am so grateful that my sister lent me her Mei Tei because wearing Journey really helps when she goes into super fussy mode. We’ve pretty much gotten the thrush under control though some days I still feel it. We’re doing lots of GSE and Probiotics and even had 2 rounds of Diflucan so hopefully we’ve knocked it out! Just wanted to send out a little update.